Challenge negatives and think of positives...

This is to be an on going blog based on one of the basic principles I want to be able to live my life by. I think to a certain extent we can choose how happy or sad we feel. Taking something that happens to us and looking at it in different ways can completely change our feelings. As a person who over evaluates every situation for hours I have found this to be true. A simple thing said to me can make me feel so many different things. I also over evaluate things I say to others - something said as a joke, a spur of the moment statement can haunt me for hours replaying over and over in my head. Sometimes it can go as far as make me want to cry, then suddenly I want to laugh. Every action has a reaction (wow Newton) but what this reaction is can be different and change a lot over time. I think over things that have happened, whole conversations days after they occur. Often I think of things I should have said to make the situation better, make me seem like a better person. But the fact is, you can't go back and change conversations; missed opportunities stay missed. You can live in the past and worry about what was done/said (I do this wayyyy too much!) or as I am trying to do, you can look forward. Yes you may have had a fail of a conversation with someone but if you want to you have the power to talk to them again, have a joke, have a laugh and fix what was may have been lost.

Today's negatives changed to positives:

Not going out with my whole flat last night left me feeling like I missed jokes and fun memories. BUT I did have a great night catching up with my best friend (this was in much need of doing), I wasn't tired with a hangover this morning and talking to people in the kitchen I found out all the good stories so could joke and be part of their night.

People I like to hang out with at the weekend have all gone home - BUT this did mean I had a great chance to walk into the city (45 min walk so no one would have wanted to do it with me), window shop and find my way around the back streets exploring (only really works on own) and enjoyed myself with my music in my ears (although it did leave me with a lot of thinking time so the amount of conversations I replayed in my head weren't too good!)

I cooked way to much for dinner (ok not a big issue!) - NOW I have lunch for tomorrow too!!! :O

I didn't understand my coursework so instead of fretting I took initiative and emailed my lecturer, she realised that a lot of people would be having the same problem and emailed everyone on the course, now I feel I have helped others out.

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to be continued